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AlexTheGrape

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  1. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Update:
    This week has been a busy one, i've been filling in much of my time with studying and almost every evening I've stayed late at school for a club gathering or event. I'm aware I've joined more clubs than I can handle, so I'm currently prioritising what is really important to me.
    I've been gyming relatively consistent this week, and had a better work ethic than the last, but my bed time has been quite inconsistent.
    I've been making plenty of friends recently, I hope that they'll stay friends for a long time. 
    I've applied for various leadership positions within my university faculty (engineering), so I'll see how that goes.
    I am yet to write here about my youth development voyage, so if I have time this weekend I'll try to do that.
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  2. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Fair enough, tea is pretty good :D
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  3. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Yes, I do. What's your thoughts on it?
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  4. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Wow, it’s been 9 days since I posted here! I’ve been busy every evening with some event, club, party, or working, so no wonder it didn’t occur to me to post. I’ve been really busy since university has started, more so now that the workload is ramping up. The parties and such to kick the year off have finished, so now it is just time to work hard. With that comes the need for me to pick up my helpful habits from where I left off, to maximise my productivity and keep me the healthiest I can be.

    Today has been a great day of studying and spending time with my little brother. We went out for running and biking twice, and I got a decent amount of studying done.

    Gratitude journal

    I am grateful for having my own room.

    I am grateful for my cupboard doubling as a desk.

    I am grateful for the help I’ve received from fellow students.

    One amazing thing that happened/I did today:

    I ran/walked for half an hour this morning with my little brother, which was awesome! It was a good time to chat and get exercise (before he jumped back onto his xbox).

    Workout/run

    Yup!

    Daily task planning ahead of time

    Done.

    Exercise planning

    I’ll just do another run tomorrow, the dogs need it too!

    Meditation

    Yup.

    Visualisation

    No.

    Daily affirmation

    No.

    Fully cold shower

    No.

    Reading + taking notes

    No.

    Getting to bed before 8:50pm

    Nope.

    Jar of Awesome

    Nope.

    Daily application of self-development skills

    Meet my commitments today. The decisions I make one day will reflect what I do every day.

    I didn’t set myself commitments properly, so although I intended to do lots of studying, I wasn’t able to set time constraints properly and didn’t get nearly enough done.

    Weekly Goal(s)

    Don’t fail a single day of my success streak! (Sadly failed).

    Get to know the neighbours in one house this week.

    Monthly Goal(s)

    (I have an extra weekly goal).

    Old 3 Month Goal (1 month left!)

    My three month goal is to develop my leadership skills enough to confidently coach a sports team or lead another form of community group.

    3 Month Goal

    Expand my holiday programme to a running business/be running my own community group within my neighbourhood.

    Know my neighbours from at least 100 households/have them as contacts for my holiday programme.

    12 Month Goal

    Be running my own community group, hosting public events (more detail needed)

    48 Month Goal

    Have grown my holiday programme/community group to be accessible by at least half of the NZ population.

    Have the skills (namely leadership) to have my options open for being an entrepreneur or having a normal job.

    What went well today:

    Doing exercise twice.

    What didn’t go well today:

    Not being organised enough to determine when I’ll do all the tasks I wrote for myself.

    What I could have done to make my day better:

    Same as above.

    What I will do differently tomorrow:

    Set in stone when I’m going to do each task, have a cold shower, get ready to work heaps faster.

    Photo Stream

    Here’s a photo taken by my university of Marshmello – I went to this concert last week and it was a blast!


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  5. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    So hi everyone, I'm back on the forum! I finished my fourth day of university today, and I'm now reintroducing my daily habits to try and up the quality of my days. I have a lot to write about my Spirit of Adventure trip and such, but for now I need to go to sleep. Stay tuned!
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  6. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Positive Habit Streak – Day 0

    Today has been an alright day. I started later because I had been at the Marshmallo party in the park with friends last night, and was really tired. I went to two lectures and a two hour design tutorial (with studying and such in between) so it was a relatively normal day.

    Gratitude journal

    I am grateful for the new headphones I bought myself.

    I am grateful for the clarity that comes with reflective tools such as journaling.

    I am grateful for my best friend doing the same course as me.

    One amazing thing that happened/I did today:

    I left my phone on the bus as I got off of it to get home, but by the time I checked my pocket for my phone, the bus had already driven away. Thankfully I had the thought to drive my car to intercept the bus course along its loop, so I was able to catch the same bus to grab my phone. I feel annoyed that I left my phone on the bus as I could have prevented that, but I’m grateful I was so lucky to get it back.

    Workout/run

    Nope. I’m now doing 3-4 gym workouts + runs a week, as sometimes I don’t have the time to exercise. I’m thinking of having a small amount of exercise on days I don’t go to the gym, so I’ll make sure to give the dog a run on those days.

    Daily task planning ahead of time

    Done. I’ve started using google calendar, so I’ve now scheduled my day into hour blocks.

    Exercise planning

    Explained above. I’m using the treadmill, rowing machine, and doing press-ups etc.

    Meditation

    No.

    Visualisation

    No.

    Daily affirmation

    No.

    Fully cold shower

    No.

    Reading + taking notes

    No.

    Getting to bed before 10:10pm

    Yup, but I’m now changing that to 8:50pm.

    Jar of Awesome

    Nope.

    Japanese learning

    Nope. Right now it isn’t a priority so I’ll remove it next time.

    Cook a meal

    I simply don’t have the time to do this every day now that I’m in university now, but I plan to cook a dinner once a week.

    Daily application of self-development skills

    Meet my commitments today. The decisions I make one day will reflect what I do every day.

    This is from before. I’ll try to achieve it.

    Weekly Goal(s)

    Don’t fail a single day of my success streak! (Sadly failed).

    Get to know the neighbours in one house this week.

    Monthly Goal(s)

    (I have an extra weekly goal).

    Old 3 Month Goal (1 month left!)

    My three month goal is to develop my leadership skills enough to confidently coach a sports team or lead another form of community group.

    3 Month Goal

    Expand my holiday programme to a running business/be running my own community group within my neighbourhood.

    Know my neighbours from at least 100 households/have them as contacts for my holiday programme.

    12 Month Goal

    Be running my own community group, hosting public events (more detail needed)

    48 Month Goal

    Have grown my holiday programme/community group to be accessible by at least half of the NZ population.

    Have the skills (namely leadership) to have my options open for being an entrepreneur or having a normal job.

    What went well today:

    Getting on with working (eventually) in the bus.

    What didn’t go well today:

    Procrastinating by listening to my headphones. I’ll make sure to only use them if I’m working on the bus or as a reward.

    What I could have done to make my day better:

    Do my old daily habits! I’ll have a bit more trouble fitting it into my schedule though :/

    What I will do differently tomorrow:

    I’m going to meditate in the morning, and get on with all the other habits I previously had.

    Photo Stream

    Here’s a photo of Auckland city that I took about a month ago!


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  7. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Monday: Worked 9.5 hours, then got some tax stuff and monthly planning done in the evening.
    Tuesday: Worked 13.5 hours, even eating dinner cut into my sleeping time.
    Today: Worked 9.5 hours, had an hour of chill time at a friend's place, did some tax paperwork and relevant calls.
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  8. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Great thanks! I'm very busy at the moment filling up my time before university starts, but it is working out fine.
    Thank you Cam! You'll hear about them soon, I promise!
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  9. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Very quick update: 
    I've got back from my Spirit of Adventure trip and it has been a blast! I have lots to tell and type, but I literally don't have the time! I'm juggling working a full-time construction job and my original part-time restaurant job at the moment and I'm barely even managing to make myself lunch for the next day, I just don't have enough time! I'll be finishing the construction job on Thursday and so within the next two weeks everything should have returned to normal pace. Thanks for you patience, reader!
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  10. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic 1000 DAYS CHALLENGE   

    Sorry to hear about your relapse! If you're still playing and know that you truly don't want to, it is probably time to raise the barrier to gaming. What ways could you add to prevent yourself from gaming in future? Adding a 'shame factor' by telling people close to you that you're never gaming again will help prevent you from gaming again. It is a little extreme, but I have that barrier up myself and it is working for me.
    How about you set up such a barrier for yourself and you can then not pay me anything?
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  11. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Sounds like a great plan!
    I'm glad you were inspired. Thank you
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  12. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Quick update:
    I came back from the 6 day trip with my friends, and I can say it has been a blast! In the past 5 days I've been working heaps as I've been continuing working at the restaurant and I've picked up a casual full-time job at a construction site as well. It has been super hectic because I've been working about 13-14 hours each day the past couple of days! Luckily I'll be going on a self-development type of course on a ship (Spirit of Adventure) with other people my age starting today, and I'll be doing that the next 10 days. I wish to advance my leadership skills on this trip, so let's see what I can do!
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  13. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Quick update: 
    Things have been really great the past couple of weeks. I've been helping to move house, exercising using the Forcefit plan almost every day, and have enjoyed plenty of time with my mates to hang out together. I'll be driving a bunch of us on a trip for almost a week to have a blast before we go our separate ways with our own jobs and tertiary education. When my university starts in March I will properly get back on with self-development, but in the meantime I'm enjoying my holidays!
    Best of luck to everyone on their journeys making their lives better 
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  14. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Positive Habit Streak – Day 0

    Today has been wonderful in terms of quality, but average in terms of completing things. I got some of my positive habits done and have made a plan to quickly do all of them (not including what’s in my morning schedule) in two blocks, and includes an evening meditation and visualisation.

    Gratitude journal

    I am grateful for having a supermarket nearby.

    I am grateful for my second jar of awesome.

    I am grateful for my brothers having a sword fight with me today.

    One amazing thing that happened/I did today:

    This went into my jar of awesome! At the new house we’re moving to, my brothers and I used some toy swords and had a blast chasing each other and hiding in the space outside the house. Smiles were all around and I wish to do much more of this in future whilst I’m not too old.

    Workout/run

    A run with the dog. Again it wasn’t what I had planned, but it’s better than nothing.

    Daily task planning ahead of time

    Yup!

    Exercise planning

    I’m going to do week 6, day 3 of my plan. Again.

    Meditation

    Nope.

    Visualisation

    Nope.

    Daily affirmation

    No.

    Fully cold shower

    No.

    Reading + taking notes

    No.

    Getting to bed before 10:10pm

    No.

    Jar of Awesome

    Yup!

    Japanese learning

    Yup!

    Cook a meal

    Yup! I made a dish that we make in my family called ‘tuna surprise’. The irony is that there’s no surprises, it’s the same delicious meal every time!

    Daily application of self-development skills

    Meet my commitments today. The decisions I make one day will reflect what I do every day.

    I did alright with this one. I didn’t do my morning schedule, but I’ve done pretty damn well with everything else.

    Weekly Goal(s)

    Don’t fail a single day of my success streak! (Sadly failed).

    Get to know the neighbours in one house this week.

    Monthly Goal(s)

    (I have an extra weekly goal).

    Old 3 Month Goal (1 month left!)

    My three month goal is to develop my leadership skills enough to confidently coach a sports team or lead another form of community group.

    3 Month Goal

    Expand my holiday programme to a running business/be running my own community group within my neighbourhood.

    Know my neighbours from at least 100 households/have them as contacts for my holiday programme.

    12 Month Goal

    Be running my own community group, hosting public events (more detail needed)

    48 Month Goal

    Have grown my holiday programme/community group to be accessible by at least half of the NZ population.

    Have the skills (namely leadership) to have my options open for being an entrepreneur or having a normal job.

    What went well today:

    Getting on with cooking to stick to my commitment.

    What didn’t go well today:

    Not getting up on time, staying up late last night.

    What I could have done to make my day better:

    Gotten more sleep, sticking to my morning routine.

    What I will do differently tomorrow:

    I will make sure to get to bed on time, follow through with my morning routine, and try to knock off as many of my tasks as I can!

    Photo Stream

    This is a yummy cake at that same birthday. With enough practice, I might be able to make ones of my own like this sometime!

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  15. AlexTheGrape added a post in a topic My Journal - Alex   

    Positive Habit Streak – Day 0

    Today has been a great day in general. Another generally relaxed one, involving moving furniture to our new house and going food shopping. I’ve been having some ideas on how to spend my holidays, and it seems that I only ever truly enjoy myself without guilt when I’m doing my best in all the facets of life that I’m wanting to improve in. I like to organise my life, and so to take on board all the new things I’m wanting to do as well (learning Japanese, cooking etc) that are significant skills, I’d like to bring my organisational skills to the next level! More on that later.

    Since my university starting date is getting closer, I’ve been really pumped to get started and make the most of it. Part of this will be creating a university project/club for the Trump Zone equivalent, as turning it into a group effort would enable it to be built well, tested well, get proper traction, and be a wonderful leadership opportunity for myself.

    My past week has been relatively mixed with some days of hanging around at home and some days of going about or working. I’ve been keeping up a high standard of exercise almost every day, which has been surprising considering the inconsistency in which I’ve been meditating and not doing visualisations. Again I come back to the conclusion that journaling daily and reflecting often are very helpful and essential tools.

    I know I haven’t achieved all my weekly or monthly goals, which is a shame. I plan to revise my visualisations and such tomorrow (which I have procrastinated for a long time!), but for now my goals are to keep consistent with what I’m assigning myself, and to actually complete all these things (including new skills).

    Gratitude journal

    I am grateful for my desire to succeed and progress my skills.

    I am grateful for having a yearly planner.

    I am grateful for being fit.

    One amazing thing that happened/I did today:

    Realising that I’m not going to cook until I start organising to do it myself was a major stepping stone in what I believe to be my progression with this skill. I’m not going to learn to cook and make meals consistently without me being organised enough to plan them beforehand and, when needed, fetch the ingredients necessary. I’m going to try cooking every day now, that way I’ll be learning all the time to work consistently and have no excuse to not do this!

    Workout/run

    A run with the dog. Not intense, but somewhat satisfactory in duration.

    Daily task planning ahead of time

    Yup!

    Exercise planning

    I’m going to do week 6, day 3 of my plan.

    Meditation

    Nope.

    Visualisation

    Nope.

    Daily affirmation

    No.

    Fully cold shower

    No.

    Reading + taking notes

    No.

    Getting to bed before 10:10pm

    No.

    Jar of Awesome

    No.

    Japanese learning

    No.

    Cook a meal

    No.

    Daily application of self-development skills

    Meet my commitments today. The decisions I make one day will reflect what I do every day.

    Weekly Goal(s)

    Don’t fail a single day of my success streak! (Sadly failed).

    Get to know the neighbours in one house this week.

    Monthly Goal(s)

    (I have an extra weekly goal).

    Old 3 Month Goal (1 month left!)

    My three month goal is to develop my leadership skills enough to confidently coach a sports team or lead another form of community group.

    3 Month Goal

    Expand my holiday programme to a running business/be running my own community group within my neighbourhood.

    Know my neighbours from at least 100 households/have them as contacts for my holiday programme.

    12 Month Goal

    Be running my own community group, hosting public events (more detail needed)

    48 Month Goal

    Have grown my holiday programme/community group to be accessible by at least half of the NZ population.

    Have the skills (namely leadership) to have my options open for being an entrepreneur or having a normal job.

    What went well today:

    Exercising, deciding to get back to journaling today.

    What didn’t go well today:

    A lot, simply being lazy.

    What I could have done to make my day better:

    Get on with my positive habits.

    What I will do differently tomorrow:

    Create new plans for doing all my positive habits.

    Photo Stream

    These are some photos I took of some delicious food at a relative’s birthday.




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