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  1. JustBeingReal added a post in a topic It's my time to quit.   

    Wow, impressive decision to remove your accounts, you should be proud.
    I really enjoyed the tedX video you posted, and I wish you the best of luck on your journey amigo, may fortune be stacked with you.
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  2. 28_yrs_of_gaming added a post in a topic The Game Destroyer's Journal   

    DAY # - 11- UNFINISHED!
    Time I woke up: 0830
    Time I went to sleep yesterday:  0230
    Physical task: Light duty chores.
    Mental task: Reading.
    Projects: Officially starting RESPAWN.
    Miscellaneous accomplishments: 
    ~ Officially starting RESPAWN.
    Summary of Day #: 11
    I am UNFINISHED. I am officially starting RESPAWN. I just had a neighbor ask for help with the whale. I guess I have more than a few things to do this evening. That's all for now.
    What I am grateful for today:
    ~ I'm not as stuck as I feel like I am.
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  3. Shine Magical added a post in a topic Shine Magical's journal   

    After about 230 days, I relapsed.
    I played 4 games of League of Legends, and bought and played Final Fantasy XV and played for 5 hours.
    Overall, the damage was not too bad.
    I had forgotten why I wanted to quit video games in the first place, which made them appealing again when I was feeling negative and also vulnerable with wrist injuries which limits my exercise choices and thus I have more time that needs to be filled.
    I spread the playtime over 3 days, but to be honest, it was still very exhausting. Playing video games is such an energy-consuming endeavor. My eyes were sunken in and my brain was in a fog at the end of each day, even though I did not play that much. I quickly went back into a severe, low energy, anti-social state. I hate this feeling, and knowing that I felt that way for months and years at a time when I was younger puts a lot of things into perspective about my mood and relationships with other people.

    Playing Rayman with my boyfriend was just a half-assed excuse, because I wanted to play video games and that was an easy way to justify it, and obviously lead me down the path to opening the floodgates. I will not be playing that game either.
    Watching anime or TV does not suck away my energy so much, so quickly. I was trying to be too perfect I think, by avoiding screens as much as possible -- anime is my passion, and I should not feel like watching it is bad for me. It is not like video games. Yes it is on a screen, but it is a much better use of my time. I have downloaded a large batch of anime to watch at my leisure whenever I want some low-effort entertainment. I don't need to be a perfect monk. Books unfortunately don't excite me enough to replace anime, which puts me in danger of relapsing. Anime gives me life.
    I am committed to not going to play video games again going forward. I did not find the games very entertaining anyway. I might relapse again when Maplestory 2 comes out, and I hope that I will have the same reaction if it happens again and learn another lesson. Overall, I don't feel too bad about relapsing since I caught it early and also I feel better knowing the information I gained from it. Thanks.
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  4. Stoic added a post in a topic Will I Respawn in 90 days?   

    I had an inkling that was the case. It seems like it will be the anchor to keep me from floating adrift in the empty space that is unused time.
    What are your thoughts on keeping a log of what you do each hour and then reflect on it at the end of the day?
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  5. Cam Adair added a post in a topic Will I Respawn in 90 days?   

    Very important!!
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  6. Cam Adair added a post in a topic It's my time to quit.   

    Two weeks! Woohoo! 
    If you're struggling with motivation a bit, definitely watch our latest video on YouTube. Also pay attention to the things that are contributing to you feeling amazing, and which ones are not. Things like poor sleep, and alcohol will only make the journey HARDER.
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  7. Cam Adair added a post in a topic Regarding the social part of the activities that replace gaming.   

    Can you share what grade you're in?
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  8. Cam Adair added a post in a topic Goodbye games   

    Hey Connor! Welcome to the forums. We're here to support you so just let us know what we can do.
    For urges watch this video.
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  9. Cam Adair added a post in a topic Cam's YouTube Videos   

    New video: How do you stay motivated?
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  10. perserva added a topic in Lifestyle   

    Regarding the social part of the activities that replace gaming.
    I've got goal/skillbased and rest activities covered.However, i do not know what social activities to do.The only friends i have are in school,and when i'm outside of it i don't even talk to them.Especially in vacations.In short, outside of school, i barely have any social interaction.What can i do?
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  11. Schwing added a post in a topic The Warrior's Infinite Opus   

    160 days journalling
    Days porn free: 15

    Dope shit!
    Today I woke up and felt like SHIT! Last night i didn't sleep well at all. Cooked some fancy pasta stuff for lunch and read some vagabond! very nice. I hope takezo gets with otsu. I'm rooting for you my boi!
    Damn another day dreamy day. Tried studying. Failed. I tried pretty damn hard though! I held my shit together well today. I have made a principle: every day has karma. One tiny action or inaction will snowball and have consequences. So I took my cold shower and did my rowing even though I didn't feel like it. Feel better now.
    Been thinking of doing a gap year before uni and going to volunteer for the american himalayan foundation. Would be a great experience for me. To be with my own people (half that is hehe. the joys of being mixed race...) and to learn of my lost heritage. And make a difference too. Grow and become strong. Strength! That is the prime virtue of a man.
    Also been thinking some more (suprise suprise...) about my destiny. Ever since I was a kid I've had this intrinsic trait that I can't attribute to anything with assurance. I have always wanted more. Always sought for something away from the rest of the flock. I've always done retarded shit and not cared. Like I didn't feel a sense of belonging in going through the motions. It's hard to describe. Just this energy. Who knows. Perhaps just my ego making shit up. But it's there for sure. Like I have been wired to do something in this world that others can't. A key to a gateway.
    I can say that I believe in god now. God is the essence of the universe. The inexplicable nature of existence. The fundamental law of chaos intertwining every individual atom with one another to create the ebb and flow of time. The one truth that lies beyond our human perception of truth; beyond abstractions of science; beyond workings of philosophy; beyond the mythos of religion. It does not exist but it is still something. Like how the number 1 has quantity. And the number 0 has no quantity. Zero has nothing but would you say zero does not exist? Being could be the absence of nothingness.
    Anyway. Now all that shit's out of the way. I'd like to wish you all a happy monday! Good night!

    Don't worry takezo! You will find your purpose eventually! The universe shall unfold!
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  12. Schwing added a post in a topic Thinking about proposing to girlfriend but worried that I may not have enough groomsmen   

    Calling? Calling is for sissies! Throw a brick through his window with a note tied to it!
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  13. Laurus added a post in a topic It's my time to quit.   

    Today is day 17 and I passed the two weeks mark. I'm very happy about it.
    I was as close as I have every been to relapsing yesterday. As I mentioned in the posts above, I unblocked all the websites. At least I thought I have - I never tested a second time. Yesterday, I was really tired all day (it was Sunday) and I couldn't motivate myself to do anything. Mainly because I was out the night before and I didn't sleep very well. Alcohol didn't help too.
    Then all of a sudden, the negative self talk started. I really try to remember what I said to myself, but I can't really. Maybe thinks like: "It doesn't matter whether you lie around and do nothing or if you play a little game". Or: "You didn't play for two weeks. Is it really worth it - do you really feel a difference?". Or the usual things like: "You won't get dragged in if you just play a couple hours today." or "Other people just watch TV, then why can't you play video games?".
    So before I knew it, I was typing in the URL of the according subreddit to my browser. And to my surprise it worked. I read everything that happened the past few days and then after some more self talk I was visiting the website of the game itself and logged in to my account. I undeleted the characters (I have to wait two months until the are permanently deleted) and my mouse hovered over "play".
    I don't really know how I did it, but I managed to emergency-quit the browser and walk away from the computer. Maybe because deep down I know that I really want to live a life without video games. Maybe because I didn't really believe my inner voice. I don't know. But I'm glad I didn't give in.
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  14. none239 added a post in a topic 3rd time's a charm right?   

    My new business made it's first 2 sales today. The dream is real. Quitting games has changed the way I look at the world.
    76 Days no games
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  15. SpiNips added a post in a topic My Journal - SpiNips   

    Today was a good day. After a weekend of resting mathematic and exercise felt refreshing and solid. This week is mostly studying, training and working until the weekend. The best moment of today was training Bjj.
    Life is rolling well.
    Today I'm grateful for:
    Full bicycle tiresGoodreads.comStudying physics; The down to basics deduction is actually very useful at timesFinland for providing students with free educationHow much internet speeds up otherwise tedious obligations like taxes
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  16. 28_yrs_of_gaming added a post in a topic Will I Respawn in 90 days?   

    Good job! I'm at about the same place you are right now. I can relate to most of what you wrote. This isn't easy, but every day is brand new. Keep it up!
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  17. Stoic added a topic in Daily Journals   

    Will I Respawn in 90 days?
    Last week I started Respawn and thus my 90 days of zero gaming. Below are the bullet points of my past week.
    Sold and removed access to all my video gamesHad a few moments where I desired to play video games but suppressed themFound myself wasting time in other ways such as mindless internet browsingFound myself sitting bored instead of actively doing thingsFailed to follow the daily schedule I setupThe past week taught me that I mostly relied on video games to avoid responsibilities. Video games allowed mind numbing entertainment for hours so I wouldn't get bored AND it made me mentally block out those things I needed to and should have been doing instead. Without video games to distract me I spent a lot of time sitting around feeling guilty about not being productive. I didn't expect the removal of video games to suddenly increase internal motivation and external productivity, but I'm definitely aware that it will require more work than I anticipated. This week I plan on reading through Respawn and work on following my daily schedule more diligently.
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  18. destoroyah added a post in a topic Destoroyah's Meltdown   

    @WorkInProgress I feel offended by that suggestion, you can't just come out of the blue and say that. You don't know what situation I am in. Working my job fulltime this month – because my colleague broke his leg/knee, and studying at the same time, failing exams and no one to cover my back. It'd get anyone to his limits, if you add the housekeeping. I can't retreat to my parents. My flatmates are nice but they're kind of "not grown up" at the same time. It's comparable to being a single mom with a job, I have like 45 free minutes per weekday if I want to live healthy. That is not enough time to sort my thoughts.
    Don't "go to psychiatrist" me, if I were in a situation grave enough – I wouldn't be chillin' on these forums. That is just about the worst thing anyone could say to me, spiting doubt in my own psychological integrity. Bah. If I were depressed – OK. If I wrote about suicide – OK. Obviously you haven't understood what I have been doing up there, I was analyzing myself on a deep level.
    I would daresay it requires a shitload of psychological integrity to even do that.
    I know you just rushed out "from the blind" – and that's cool, it's good to have you back, but you need to check up on people before you write. Stop being an idiot. No hard feelings, and I don't give a shit.
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  19. ThePerfectApology added a post in a topic 19 year old male looking for an accountability partner   

    I have found an accountability partner.
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  20. Matthias added a post in a topic Relapsed after 22 days.   

    You are so hardwired into playing games, relapses can happen. Just uninstall all your games, and try to just not play that day.
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  21. Matthias added a post in a topic The road to glory   

    go out, if you play an instrument go to open mic and jam sessions. Go to jazz clubs, join an online community about a hobby you are passionate about
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  22. Snackrun added a topic in Start Here + Introductions   

    Goodbye games
    Hey everyone,
    My name is Connor. I'm a 23 year old guy about to graduate trying to finally stop gaming and actually do something with all of the free time that I have. My gaming problem really started five years ago during freshman year of college, with League of Legends. That accursed game. It was so fun, and I've kept coming back to it. It is hard to leave something that I have spent so much time doing, like learning all the champs and items and how to play every role. I've wasted 95 days of my life playing that game over the last 5 years, and it is time to end it. I of course have other games I palyed off and on, but having unistalled them all a month or so ago I feel it is easier to let them all go. 
    I will be graduating with a degree in geology/geophysics, but my true interest is in paleontology and dinosaurs. I also love drawing, nature, camping, hiking, etc. If anyone ever wants to talk to me about those things, feel free! I would love to get to talk about those kind of things with people. 
    I want to finally quit video games because I need to be doing other things with my time. I know that I will say that I only play them because I have so much free time and I don't know what else I would do, but there are so many other things to do that I would be lying to myself if I started playing again. This is probably the 6th-10th time I've tried to quit, but often only manage to go a week or two before reinstalling. I know that I am not as bad as some people, but knowing that I have this beast that I can't overcome makes me want to try even harder. So I thought I would try this place to see if it will help. I have high hopes for the future though, and I think I can stick through the urges. 
    Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.
    - Connor
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  23. Schwing added a post in a topic The Warrior's Infinite Opus   

    Damn I couldn't sleep for shit last night! Sucked. I was lying there daydreaming for 6 hours! Crazy! At about 4 am I said "Fuck this!" and looked at archived suicide notes on my phone. No idea why. Very touching. So I eventually hit the bunk a short time after 5 am. And now I'm awake and it's 12:14 pm and I feel like I haven't slept at all! FUCK! I wasn't even wearing the underwear that was tight on my bollocks!
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  24. EDS added a post in a topic The road to glory   

    Just gonna do a general update;
    It's going well I think, 10 days without video games feels weird but I know it's the right thing to do. I just need to learn how to put my concentration into my study so I can get that done well. One thing I am finding hard in the evenings when I would typically play games I don't really know what to do. I've basically been watching tv and nothing much else really, I've been working on learning programming but I feel like I'm missing talking to people then. I don't really know I just feel a bit lonely as I don't have anyone to talk to but I'll try and work it out. Other than that my baseball games went well and I'm just getting on with my life.
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  25. tirEdOrange added a post in a topic Phyxius   

    Yea! I plan to do that after I have some routine with my exercise. Variations are a good thing, nice tip!
    24.04.2017, 10:47:
    Day 5-10
    If there is something that would describe my last days it would be:
    So during the last days I did a little bit of sport, some self reflection and a looooot of binging but no gaming. I have now a vision of the way how I want to design my day and today I made a step towards this goal and I'm happy about that.
    So far I woke up early and made some morning sport, now the next step is to invest my day for studying which will be the real challenge but I'm positive and motivated
    My counter right now is 30 Push-ups, 0 Sit-ups and 2km. The rest will be done throughout the day except the running part.
    Something that I realized is that I hid myself from everything during the last days by binging. On the other hand I had also a lot of creative Ideas and insight into my personality. So the last 5 days had been unproductive, but weren't completly wasted. Still, I need to find a middle line for this lol because I can't simply do almost nothing for 5 days haha.
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